Thanks for actually making me think, Arra Abella of Style Reader. It took me a while to sort through my experiences, and then my emotions, and then myself, to come up with this list. I think one of the main realizations I had this year (so far) is that you always have a choice. ALWAYS. And it’s yours.
Life is too short for a long story, but there’s a lot to do in this life, and it can be pretty exhausting, so take a step back, relax and chill. 🙂
- Pace yourself, life is not a contest
I have always lived by the idea of actually doing things than waiting for them to happen. A nagging feeling that I needed to do everything at once, such as planning my life, experiencing everything, getting to the top, figuring life out, and finding my purpose. I got so fixated that I ended up burning myself up, forgetting that I still have my life ahead of me.
I am 23 years old and I definitely do not need to rush things. I am young and I could actually afford failures. Plan. Execute. Enjoy.
2. You can’t please everyone
Social Media has proven to empower people with the throng of voices continually shouting about their unverified facts and reckless, aggressive and abusive comments. Simply commenting your stand on a certain issue can guarantee you one of two things, a flock of support, or death threats from random strangers. I have learned to actually use the Unfollow and Unfriend feature on Facebook BECAUSE one less friend is one less person encouraging their attention-seeking ways.
While it is normal to seek that feeling of belongingness, it shouldn’t be at the expense of your integrity, happiness, and values. One day, all will be forgotten, and that’s good news because there’s absolutely no reason to not be the person you want to be.
3. … and you can’t force friendships
but that’s okay. Not everyone is your friend, and not everyone will do good by you. Oftentimes, people are present in your life just because it is convenient.
‘True friendship isn’t about being inseparable, it’s about being separated and nothing changes’
Paulo Coelho once said, “Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead anywhere.
4. Stop making excuses for failure!!
One thing that pisses me off these days would be to hear the excuse, ‘I’m a millennial, so it’s okay for me to make stupid shit’. NO. We are adults, and we need to take responsibility for our actions. Our generation makes too many excuses and it has to stop.
Burnouts are so common in our industry, but that doesn’t entitle us to fuck up and to forget about your priorities. Let’s not forget that we are actually working with other people, who have their own lives to think about.
5. ..and saying sorry is not always enough
Sometimes, you actually have to change. ‘nuff said!
6. Working out is good for you!
It helps you sleep better, compels you to eat healthy (or I at least try to), and builds and maintains your muscles, bones, and joints! HAHAHA. Going to the gym actually gave me more confidence, losing a lot of weight, and gaining toned muscles, strength, and stamina! This also helped in relieving my stress and anxiety!
Thank God we now have a gym in the office! ❤
7. You don’t have to win everything
Never despise yourself for your losses, because you needed them to learn! Winning is challenging you to be better. I read a quote somewhere that goes like this, ‘Mistakes can turn you into something better than you were before.’ It’s okay! Again, we have our lives ahead of us.
8. Overthinking leads to negative thoughts
And more often than not, it leads to self-destruction and unwanted actions. So STAHP EET!!
9. Polite boys are so much more attractive!
Stop going for the broken-selfish-douchefaces, they will just take you down with them.
10. And finally…
I think I like who I’m becoming. 🙂 HIHI.
The best time for new beginnings is now. So go!